This is the fourth and final installment of the 2019 Mindful Communication Series. The Bravery of Setting Boundaries! I know that I have challenged you all with some pretty tough topics in this series. I’ve asked you to dig deep and find the strength to apologize and to forgive when necessary.
How are you doing with finding the Power of Apology? Were you able to think of anyone to whom you need to apologize? If so, did you find it it in yourself to make sincere amends?
What about the other side of the coin? Forgiveness ? Did anyone come to mind towards whom you are harboring resentment? Were you able to find the Freedom in Forgiveness you can have through letting go of that resentment and forgiving them?
If you experienced either the Power of Apology and/ or the Freedom in Forgiveness I hope that you will share it with us in the comments! It will help encourage others to do the same.
If you did not, but are trying to, it’s okay. Both apology and forgiveness are processes. Keep trying. Keep digging deep and keep meditating on it. Reach out in the comments or the Empowered Through Peace Facebook group for the support and encouragement of others!
At the end of the Freedom in Forgiveness blog I cautioned that it is very important that forgiveness and boundaries go hand-in-hand. In this blog I am going to dive deeper into that topic.
What Self-Love Really Means
I had the most surprising and delightful a-ha at a networking meeting with a new colleague this week!
Since it was our first meeting, we basically traded life stories and I got to talking about the skills I have and the many things I’ve done…and thought, wow! I’ve done and can do a lot…
…And yet, if I’m honest, the thought that “I haven’t amounted to much” can creep in — often.
And, I don’t think I’m alone in that, which is why I’m sharing this story with you.
About a decade ago, when my marriage was on the rocks, a kind woman said to me, “I know it’s hard, but if you find forgiveness in your heart you will feel much better.” My immediate response was, “I’m not going to forgive him! He hasn’t said that he’s sorry!”
Spoiler Allert: We’re still married and going strong!
You see, the woman was correct. Finding forgiveness allowed me to be released from the stifling emotions of resentment and anger. Finding forgiveness helped me to realize that I can’t force my husband into saying or doing anything – particularly not apologizing. What I found is that when I gave up my anger, my resentment and my need to control his emotions and communication I allowed healing for both of us to begin.
And yes, we both ended-up apologizing. More importantly, we still do when necessary!
“It is never too late to make things right.” ~ Unknown
This is the first in the 3-part Mindful Communication Skills series that I outlined in last week’s blog.
Apologizing is something that is incredibly hard for many people. For some people they feel that there is a lot of shame in apologizing, and shame is an uncomfortable feeling. For others, the discomfort of feeling guilty about something they have done is too much. They would rather just forget that the situation causing their guilty feelings occurred. Finally, there are those who just plain don’t believe that they are in the wrong – sometimes, these people seem to think that they are NEVER wrong! You know who I’m talking about 😉
But, this blog is not about other people.
It’s about YOU!
I want to share with you how apologizing is a powerful stress-reliever!
Hello Peaceful Living Warriors!
It’s February and I’m thinking about relationships again. Last year during the month of Love we talked about Dr. Chapman’s 5 Love Languages & how to “Grow Your Friend Tribe.” This year it’s all about strengthening your relationships with Mindful Communication and THREE crucial skills!
Each week for the next three weeks I will be covering a said “crucial skill.” THIS WEEK I am going to cover the basics of Mindful Communication
It’s a wonderful, romantic thought that, “Love is All You Need.” And, heck, it’s an awesome lyric! Thanks Beatles! But, truthfully, while love creates a necessary solid foundation, some mindful communication skills will get you through the hard times every long-lasting relationship will face.
Most of us, by the time we’re adults, have either experienced or witnessed love dwindling out. Or, even worse, we’ve been hurt by, or seen people get very hurt because of, love.
That said, when love is good, it is GOOD!!!
Mindful Communication skills can help it stay that way.
Many of you may be asking, “Jen, we hear all the time about how important communication is, but WHAT are Mindful Communication skills?”
The short answer is the Mindful Communication is thoughtful communication. The long answer is, that there have been entire books written on the subject. For the purposes of this blog I am going to cover 5 of what I consider to be the most important skills