Mindset Practices to Survive Our Crazy World: Sometimes it seems that our lives become so busy that we lose sight of the little things in our lives. We go so fast that life seems like a blur. But, in the nearly half century I have been on this earth I have found that WE can DECIDE if we want life to be a blur or if we want life to full of beautiful detail!
It’s a matter of MINDSET.
Choose optimism. Break out of your busy habit. Take 100% responsibility for your mindset.
Here are some tips to get you started on your journey to Peaceful Living:
- Make some time for yourself.
- Come up with a list of ideas of things to do to enjoy life more.
- Stop making excuses for continuing with your stress.
- Chose to live with a more positive mindset.
If you change your mindset you can…
ENJOY THE JOURNEY!
Okay, yes, if you have changed your mindset from negative to positive you are most likely enjoying the journey. But, what if you are trying to change your mindset, but you are just not there yet? That’s okay. I have a couple exercises for you to do.
“Are you important?”
Are you important enough to yourself that you will take time out of your busy schedule for self-nurture???
WHO COMES FIRST?
I wrote an earlier blog for moms about how to use the airline analogy of putting the oxygen mask on yourself first. The airlines want you to put the oxygen mask on yourself first (in case of emergency) so that you don’t pass out before you can put the oxygen on your children and others who need help. Likewise, if a mom allows herself some self-care, it helps her to be a better mom because she’s not exhausted and stressed-out.
Honestly, this analogy is important for anyone who has a care-taking role for others. Whether you are a teacher, a nurse, a manager, a parent, an adult child who cares for an elderly parent, etc. etc. you NEED to take care of yourself first!
That does not mean that you are going to the spa or the golf course every weekend in lieu of taking your kids to baseball or gymnastics. It means that you CAN take an amount of time that you specify (and perhaps work out with your spouse or partner if need be) for self-care on a daily, weekly, monthly and even yearly basis.
Give yourself a little care first and you will be able to give others a lot of care on a regular basis!
Here’s an exercise for you to try out. Make a list of things you can do for your self-care:
I’ll get you started with ideas
- Meditate daily: 10 to 15 minutes 2x is a good start!
- Think you can’t meditate? Check out my blog Meditation For Monkey Minds http://peacefullivingwellness.com/meditation-for-monkey-minds/
- Go to yoga and/ or take a walk or leisurely bike ride 1x to 3x per week.
- Play golf or tennis or engage in another activity with friends 1x per week.
- Have a “date night” with your spouse 1x week.
- Have a night out with friends 1x to 2x per month.
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Keep the list going!
TAKE A DAILY TIME INVENTORY
Another good way to figure out how to break busy is to take a look at how you spend your time. One of the very first sessions I do with my Peaceful Living Wellness coaching clients is to have them write out a detailed list of what they do with their time. I have them complete one list for weekdays and one for weekends. It helps us figure out how they are spending their time AND if the way they are spending their time is serving them.
Here are some things that I found when I did this exercise myself:
- I was spending so much time volunteering for my kids’ schools and organizations that it was almost a full-time job! Volunteering is a wonderful thing & it absolutely feeds my soul to help others in that way. But, volunteering so much that I was not taking care of myself or my business was causing a problem!
- I was spending a lot of time vegging out in front of the television in the morning and in the evening. Vegging out in front of the TV is something that can actually be good for you in small doses. 30 minutes to an hour to give your brain a break is really okay. But, how I was watching the morning news and starting my day with negativity and noise was not a good choice. And for those of you who veg out for several hours in front of the TV every night, it’s really not serving you as well as reading or listening to something enriching, meditating, doing yoga, cuddling with &/ or reading to your kiddos, etc. will.
- I was allowing myself to fall down the rabbit hole of SOCIAL MEDIA for too many hours. Even though my social media use was often sporadic ~ 10 minutes here, 15 minutes there ~ when I completed my detailed inventory it ended up being a lot of hours over the course of the day and the week! Again, social media is something that can serve us well. For business-owners it’s a must. For others, the social connection is very uplifting. But, when your time spent on social media adds up, when it gives you FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), when it makes you feel bad about yourself because you are comparing your life to the lives of others, or when it is exposing you to the negativity of others, it is NOT serving you well.
What I found for myself, and what my clients find, after doing this exercise, is that there is a lot of time we all waste on things that are not helping to make us happier healthier people!
Stuck in the cycle of busy hoping that one day there will be time for your and what you want?
You are not alone. PEACEFUL LIVING COACHING is here to support you!
Use this exercise to help you figure out what you are doing that is NOT contributing to your feeling relaxed and happy.
TRY TO DO THIS! NOT THAT!
- Spend 10 – 15 minutes meditating by cutting 10 – 15 minutes off your social media time.
- Spend an hour-and-half weekly going to yoga by carpooling for your kids’ soccer, gymnastics, etc. etc.
- Spend an hour reading (or listening to a good book) by cutting out an hour of TV time.
- Spend an hour taking a warm, relaxing bath at night by asking your partner to do the dishes and/ or put the kids to bed. Trade off nights with this if need be.
You get the picture! Fill in your own ideas. Once you get going I bet you will find that there are a ton of DO THIS ideas on your list!
Go to it Peaceful Living Warriors! Find your inner peace and healthy life by BREAKING BUSY! I know you can do it! And if you need support in your quest to Break Busy, reach out to me! We can schedule a breakthrough coaching session in which I can support and motivate you! I’m here for you friend.
Love & Light,
Jen
www.peacefulllivingwellness.com
JEN ROBINSON
Jen Robinson is the creative force behind the wellness brand Peaceful Living Wellness which is dedicated to providing a wide-variety of high-quality wellness information. Jen is also the creator of the Peaceful Living Wellness life coaching division, and offers workshops, individual and group coaching as well as retreats where she guides women in using Mindfulness and Mindset to build their inner strength on a foundation of inner peace. Jen also is the co-creator of the business coaching brand CEO Mindset that guides entrepreneurs in building their businesses without burning out.
The latest addition to her repertoire is that she recently signed-on as the Wellness Director for the business development company Wealthy Women Entrepreneurs . She is very excited to be leading this group of dynamic women entrepreneurs into success in their businesses and lives!
The most important part of Jen’s life are her two very active teenagers, AJ & Layna!
Jen’s Mindfulness and Mindset techniques inform her business, her parenting and her life!
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