Welcome to part two of this series. If you missed last month’s blog post, I introduced creative yet effective strategies for staying connected with your partner when you’re too tired for sex.
This month, I’m sharing even more ways that you can add some passion into your sex life. Check out additional tips that you can begin implementing ASAP:
Put your screens aside and pay attention to each other and your family
Children will learn that quality time is important to your family’s values. Your children need this kind of modeling. You also need to create this habit to truly connect with your partner at a deeper level.
Related Post: Are You And Your Partner Too Tired For Sex? Explore These Creative Strategies To Stay Connected: Part 1
Where do you start?
- Turn screens off two hours before bedtime. This encourages you to turn towards each other, and creates time to keep up that simmering!
- Put your phones aside during all family meals, as this will also show your kids that you value their attention.
- Spend time focused on your life instead of the TV drama. Your life can be even more exciting!
Share the household work load and do it together
Working side-by-side and creating a to-do list that you can conquer together will give you pride in your home. Also, doing the dishes together can boost a woman’s sex drive!
- Create a list of household chores, and take turns handling each.
- Set a timer so that you can focus on the tasks. And, heck, why not do a little simmering?
(See last month’s article for the definition of “simmering”).
Commit to each other before making commitments to others
Stay in for a date night and skip the group gathering at the neighbor’s house! Resist the urge to plan too many things in a day or a week. Remain focused on spending more time with your family, and leave work at the office.
- Plan a special family meal and a romantic dinner two times a week.
- Get your kids to help prepare a romantic meal for mom and dad. They get a taste test. Your children need to learn that mom and dad do make their relationship a priority. (They will learn from you and will do the same some day).
- Cut back on your volunteer activities for a short while. Imagine how much more energy you would have if you weren’t always leaving the house.
Sleep!
And finally, to overcome the feelings of fatigue that prevent you from having sex, get more sleep! Sleep deprivation is real, and it can dramatically decrease your sex drive. Getting under 7-8 hours of sleep means your body is fighting against its homeostatic drive for sleep. The more consecutive hours your body stays awake, the stronger this drive becomes, and the harder it will be to find the desire to have sex.
Are you sleep deprived because your children could use a better sleep routine? Perhaps you need a baby or child sleep coach (see the resources at the bottom of this post).
- Check in to make sure your hormones and diet are balanced.
- Don’t over do it at the gym (especially if you want to save some of that strength for later!).
- Build a healthy sleep routine. Try to skip the TV and head to the bed to PLAY.
- If you are sleep deprived and you have tried everything, consider hiring a sleep coach.
Between last month’s post and this post, you now have eight creative ideas to stop being too tired for sex so that you can stay connected with your partner. What works for you will be unique to your preferences and needs, so be sure to try a mix of these ideas to see what suits you and your partner best.
Never give up on getting creative to have more sex!
Love,
MC
Relationship Bliss
Resources list:
Need a Couples Communication or Sex Coach?
Book a free 15 minute session here:
https://calendly.com/mcthauvette/15min
Need sleep tips?
Marie-Claire Thauvette offers an effective workshop to help you to get more sleep. Available in September 2021.
Need a Baby Sleep Coach?
https://www.babesandbeyond.com/
Listen to this podcast:
https://relationshipbliss.ca/passion-perspective-podcast/ Better Bedtime with Kim Davis
MARIE-CLAIRE
M-C is a highly-acclaimed Relationship, Conscious Loving and Sexuality coach, author, educator, and entrepreneur. Her mission is to provide couples with fun and innovative solutions that help them build strong futures with each other. M-C has crafted her unique coaching method to focus couples — both dating and married — on working through present obstacles in an enjoyable manner.
She has accumulated over 30 years of teaching experience, and over 10 years of one-on-one coaching experience. M-C is trained in Gottman’s Therapy (Level 2), and is a board certified ASSECT and WASC Intimacy Coach.
Her devotion to helping couples inspired her to write the best-selling and award-winning book, Honeymoon Playbook. M-C frequently makes appearances on some of Canada’s top TV shows, and co-hosts The Passion Perspective podcast.
For a more intensive experience, M-C hosts workshops and retreats throughout the year, including Feminine Shifts, Tantric Sex, and Intimacy and Cancer. To keep up-to-date on her latest events and appearances — and to schedule your FREE 15 minute discovery call — visit www.relationshipbliss.ca.
