HOW TO PRACTICE HEALTHY DETACHMENT

Written by:
Brittney Hiller
October 4, 2019

I have had my bout with detachment.

Like… That one time I detached from my body almost fully when I was pregnant due to a date gone wrong; which ended joyfully in the gifting of a child to a well-deserving family.

but I digress…

Detachment and I, we have had our altercations and our love affairs, but recently I have come to realize that detachment isn’t always the worst.

To clear things up a bit, the detachment I am referring to is:

Detachment: the state of being objective or aloof.

You know, in case you thought I was talking about a group of troops being sent away on a separate mission.. that my friends, will be for another day.

When it comes to my relationship with money, objects, people, and want, detachment plays an epic role at keeping me sane. Here are my reasons why:

DETACHMENT FROM MONEY

I used to be ob-to-the-sessed with money, but in an unhealthy way. Obsessed as in “there is never enough” sort of obsessed. Obsessed with constantly reminding myself of how little I had, even though for the most part, this was untrue. I often had just enough, but my relationship with money deemed me as the girl who had “too little.”

Then one day, something amazing happened. I began my own business and realized I had an unhealthy relationship with money. Mental awareness kicked in! If I wanted to have this business actually go somewhere, I needed to make up with money and quickly!

I learned the art of detachment toward money and thus began offering donation-based yoga classes.

These began as my way to offer yoga to everyone, yet also quickly allowed me to witness the social experiment I didn’t realize I was actually conducting.

More and more people would ask, “but what do I pay you?” “Anything you want!” I would kindly answer with a big, toothy grin. “But, how will you survive?” (this is always a favorite of mine). “Um, I will be absolutely fine,” and then I tell them about my awesome friend (and HUGE inspiration) Marty – he says “well, if I was hungry, would you feed me?” “yes” (most would say) “would you give me a room if I needed a place to stay for a night?” “sure” (again, most would say).

This shows that our attachment to money can hold us back. My openness to receive as others wish to give me has opened doors, not only doors of communication (because, honestly when we say “do what you want” to someone whom may be used to having someone else decide for them, it can turn into a powerful conversation), but, it also opens me to the experience of receiving more than I ever imagined.

An extra bonus is that offering donation classes allows me the flexibility to offer classes to ALL people!

Here is one way you may attempt to detach from money, if you are struggling with this: Each time you receive cash whether from a friend, change at a store, or business transaction state “Thank you money for showing up for me today! I am so grateful and thankful for you!” It creates a feeling of fulfillment instead of the feeling of lack. Plus, the more you do this, the more you may notice money coming to you, thereby also negating the feelings of lack.

DETACHMENT FROM PEOPLE

Most,if not all of us, have been there – the relationship we thought we could “never live without.” Often we even find ourselves saying this out loud – “Oh I could never live without you.” We may find it an endearing thing to say, yet when we truly think about it, it is a way of self-sabotaging.

Dr. Wayne Dyer (one of my favorite authors and all time inspiring heroes) explains it best in his book “Erroneous Zones.” He talks about the “I’ms” “I’m lost without you,” for example, may sound like an endearment, but truly it is a lack of respect toward your Self. When we learn the art of Self Love and detach from the idea that we NEED to have others in our lives in order to be happy, we are doing something good for ourselves as well as for the ones we love. Imagine what a large undertaking that may be to become the sole provider of someone’s happiness!

All my mama’s out there, I see you! “That is what I do everyday with this child,” you may say, but what if you didn’t? What if you let your child be who they are without expectations? What if you did not poo poo on their idea of fun, even if it includes dirt and smudged clothing?

Attempt detachment from people, including your children, as a refreshing way to truly be YOU.

Notice a change or a shift in your relationships and share them with me! I am excited to hear how any of this may have helped you. Keep up the fun, my friend – life is not about how hard or busy we are, but how much fun and inspiring each day may be!

I also want to offer you a warm invitation to join my Private Effervescence Elite Membership group! In this group I inspire you to live your most passionate life now!

I love you!

Peace + Love,

Brittney Hiller

BRITTNEY HILLER

Brittney is the creator of the Effervescence Yoga brand and the owner of Effervescense Yoga Spa in the beautiful resort town of Beaufort, South Carolina. Brittney is passionate about leading a life full of laughter and joy! That is why she is also a certificated laughter yoga teacher & laughter yoga leadership trainer. She is also a Follow-Your-Passion Coach and the producer and head talent of Flowcountry, the Lowcountry’s only streaming yoga show!