Do you find the holiday season to be so hectic that you forget to regularly connect with your partner? With so many events and commitments placed on top of our already busy lives, who has time for a romantic date night?!
However, if you want to keep your relationship going strong, you must invest time into it. There’s no way around this fact, even during the holidays! Instead of focusing solely on finding the perfect gift for your partner, also be sure to give them the gift of your full attention, love, and admiration.
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What does your partner need in order to experience your love at its best? There’s one thing that you need to know before you can be effective in connecting with your partner this holiday season: their love language.
Derived from the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, the term “love language” refers to ways in which people express and experience love. The five love languages discussed in the book are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. By learning your partner’s love language, you can most appropriately and effectively communicate your love. To find out what your partner’s love language is, you can take the free quiz on www.5lovelanguages.com.
Once you’ve discovered their love language, you can make the most out of every alone moment with your partner. Here are several thrilling ideas for each love language type to ignite the passion in your relationship.
Quality time
If quality time is your partner’s love language, spending five minutes with them won’t do it. Instead, carve out time that is centered around the two of you. No cell phones, no television. Just passion and connection!
Idea: Make a fire (either in the fireplace or outdoors). Leave all of your electronics in a different room. Next, prepare and enjoy your favorite holiday beverage while letting each other know what you appreciate most about one another. You can also write down fun (or even steamy!) questions on pieces of paper, and put them into a container. Take turns drawing and answering questions at random, and see where the evening takes you!
Acts of service
Did your partner score highest in the “acts of service” love language? Observing and providing what they need to recharge their batteries at this time of the year will ignite their passion — big time!
For example, if your partner needs some alone time, reserve a spa day for them while you watch the kids. Your goal should be to meet their needs as much as possible.
Affirmations
Individuals who have affirmations as their love language appreciate hearing positive comments from you. Fulfill your partner’s needs by preparing a list of 100 things you love about them. Next, get creative by putting your list in a frame, and offer it as a Christmas present. Don’t make this a one time occurrence! After the holiday season draws to a close, keep up the compliments, sexy texts, and flirting.
Physical touch
Physical touch is perhaps the easiest love language to satisfy. If this is your partner’s love language, never let them walk by or be around you without being touched.
Looking for the ultimate Christmas present for this person? Give the gift of massage throughout the year. You can either take lessons from a licensed massage therapist, or learn simple Swedish massage techniques on YouTube.
Gifts
Finally, if your partner scored highest in the gifts category, Christmas is an especially good time to meet their love language needs. You don’t have to spend a fortune on gifts when someone has this love language. Need some examples? If their sex toy isn’t giving them a thrill, purchase the hottest sex toy of the year. Alternatively, a weekend getaway at a cabin somewhere, or a romantic dinner and a little dancing, can serve as incredible gifts.
We often give what WE would want for Christmas. Now that you know your partner’s love language, you can give them what they ACTUALLY want. As you work to stay connected throughout the holiday season, also be sure to ask for what you want. The best relationships are those where both partners strive to please each other on a regular basis.
MARIE-CLAIRE
M-C is a highly-acclaimed Relationship, Conscious Loving and Sexuality coach, author, educator, and entrepreneur. Her mission is to provide couples with fun and innovative solutions that help them build strong futures with each other. M-C has crafted her unique coaching method to focus couples — both dating and married — on working through present obstacles in an enjoyable manner.
She has accumulated over 30 years of teaching experience, and over 10 years of one-on-one coaching experience. M-C is trained in Gottman’s Therapy (Level 2), and is a board certified ASSECT and WASC Intimacy Coach.
Her devotion to helping couples inspired her to write the best-selling and award-winning book, Honeymoon Playbook. M-C frequently makes appearances on some of Canada’s top TV shows, and co-hosts The Passion Perspective podcast.
For a more intensive experience, M-C hosts workshops and retreats throughout the year, including Feminine Shifts, Tantric Sex, and Intimacy and Cancer. To keep up-to-date on her latest events and appearances — and to schedule your FREE 15 minute discovery call — visit www.relationshipbliss.ca.
